This Is How You Can Create A Healthy Support Structure For Yourself

The last post started the conversation about having a solid support system in your life. The emphasis was on how much having a person or people that you can rely on. In addition, you have had a chance to understand more about how this can benefit you. Most importantly, your overall health. The fact is that life is an unpredictable journey. As much as it’s a beautiful journey, it gets messy here and there. And if you’re prone to crises, the mess happens every so often.

So, it’s important to know how to create coping mechanisms. Yet, doing this isn’t as easy as you might think. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a mom who’s trying to juggle a demanding role and life’s expectations or a student who’s trying to make it to the finish line. There are just a couple of things that you should be proactive about to create the positive life that you deserve. Sometimes, this requires you to do things that you’d never imagined. For instance, you might have to kill parts of yourself that you’ve held onto for far too long. When you’re used to navigating your life in survival mode, it’s difficult to know when your coping mechanisms are toxic or not. For you, they help you to get through what you need to get through. Well, until the next time. As a result, you miss out on learning how to create a healthy environment for yourself.

But you need a healthy sanctuary to ensure that you’re prepared for what life throws at you. In fact, it helps you to know how to deal with the challenges or the glorious moments even when you find yourself alone. Since you know how much I enjoy researching useful information for you, I decided to dive deeper into the importance of creating a healthy support system. This is what I found out. These are the 5 things that you can practice to create a solid support structure in your life.

Be Accountable 

It’s important to be accountable with your actions. This doesn’t just mean accepting the responsibility of your actions. You should know and understand the consequences of your actions. Breaking your bad habits requires you to not only keep the promises that you make to yourself, but to also forgive yourself for the promises that you’ve broken. 

Maintain Relationships 

You’d be surprised to find out how easy it is to let your relationships go when life isn’t kind to you. Everything just feels like another mountain that you have to struggle to climb. Yet, a healthy support system requires you to build relationships with people who can relate to your circumstances. These are people that should help you with being accountable. In fact, if your friends enable your negative behavioural qualities, you should reassess their presence in your life. 

Find Your Purpose 

One thing that I always say is that having my daughter gave me so much purpose. You know when something comes into your life and changes everything about you? The day that I gave birth to my baby, I gave birth to myself as well. My purpose in life has been redefined and every day keeps getting better and better. The thing is when you don’t have a purpose in your life, it becomes difficult to commit to anything. There’s nothing that drives you to achieve your goals. You don’t have anything tangible or otherwise that remains a purpose for your healing. 

Think of Getting Professional Help 

The fact is sometimes your heavy load can be too much for anyone to carry. Your loved ones may not have the capacity to understand or even advise you on how to handle your most challenging moments. The best thing that you should consider doing for yourself more than anything is to seek professional help. There’s no reason for you to think of therapy as a bad thing. I know how scary it can be, but once you get into it, things get so much better. You see, before my daughter came, a therapist did all that she could to help me choose life instead of jumping over a cliff. It gets better – I promise you. 

Educate Yourself 

It’s easy for me to write this blog post and offer you these 5 ways to help you create your support structure. Yet, I don’t know what works for you. Sometimes the best thing that you should do is to educate yourself. This helps you to figure out what works for you or doesn’t. In fact, it’s a great way for you to understand your triggers. Moreover, it can shed light on why you struggle to maintain healthy boundaries and relationships in your life. This can be overwhelming. Getting to truly know yourself without anyone holding your hand can make you unravel. But the beauty of your life is hidden in the chaos. Find yourself and be who you should be. 

It’s important for you to remember that when you create your support structure you should start from within. It’s difficult for your loved ones to remain reliable when you can’t do the same for you. The fact is you should teach people how to treat you. If you want a gentle understanding of who you are, you should show that and communicate it effectively. Essentially, you should also be the person that you need your loved ones to be towards you. For example, I try my best to be the kind of parent that I needed when I was a child. Being who I needed to my daughter when I was younger is helping me to show up and hold her hand through every milestone with the compassion that every child deserves. The thing is, she needs a healthy support structure as much as I do. 

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