5 More Things To Expect When You’re Expecting

“The secret of happiness is low expectations.”

Today marks the start of a new week. It’s been bleak for the most part. Yet, you’re here, trying to remain positive once more. The year has been weighing heavy on many people all over the world. While hope may seem like a fading reality to hold on to, it’s still important to keep your faith alive for better days to come. Having expectations in life is an important part of navigating unknown situations. It should be a good way to improve your clarity, even if you can’t determine the outcomes of your future. This is why this list should be helpful for you if you’re still thinking of becoming a mother. Or even if you’re a dad, it can help you to support your partner the best way you possibly can. You should read on to find out what the rest of this list of the things that you should expect when you’re expecting looks like. 


This is something that you can never fully prepare yourself for. When you think of breastfeeding and when you see other moms doing it, you don’t think for a second that it is what it is. In theory, it’s the perfect way that you can nurture your child. You’ve read all about the importance of breastfeeding, the bond that it creates with your cub, and how much it saves you money. There’s no doubt that you’re going to reap many benefits when you breastfeed. The visits to your pediatrician are cut by more than half. The fact is, your baby’s immune system thanks you for choosing to breastfeed. Yet, on the other side of the coin is you, a mom who goes through many sleepless nights. It’s not just the sleepless nights. It’s the stress of it all. The waking up to feed while the rest of the house is dead quiet. You go through liters of water and other liquids throughout the day to ensure that you have enough milk to supply your child. Then, you still have to make sure that you’re in a good mental state. The thing is, stress is the number one factor that can affect your breastmilk supply. But how can you even minimize your stress levels? Especially when the first year of being a mother is full of many ups and downs that can leave you feeling unworthy in most cases? Then there are mothers who feel less than because they can’t breastfeed. Others choose not to, for the sake of their peace. If you’re not a mother or never had to breastfeed, it’s easy to have lots to say about their journey. Yet, some mothers like myself, reconsider choosing breastfeeding mainly because of the chronic fatigue that it comes with. If you’re ever faced with this decision, you should make your decision based on what matters to you. Nobody knows what you’ve had to go through, except for yourself. Don’t let anyone guilt trip you into choosing to breastfeed when you’re not ready to.

Hair Loss

If you search for”hair loss during pregnancy” you’ll come across millions of search results in less than 30 seconds. This is one of those normal side effects, like having your teeth fall out during or after pregnancy. Millions of mothers have had to go through this harrowing experience. Can you imagine what it might feel like to have your once luscious and voluminous hair fall out for months? Worse, you might not be able to do anything about it. This is how hormones continue to form a number on your body as you sustain another human inside of you. It’s crazy how as one life is nurtured another is depleted slowly throughout 9 months. In some cases, you might have long-lasting effects. The hair loss might take years to recover from. On the other hand, you might be one of the fortunate mothers who experience excessive hair growth while you’re pregnant. Personally, I fall in this category of mothers. Yet, from doing some research while writing this post, I’ve discovered that hair loss is still a possibility. Apparently, when you stop breastfeeding it might trigger an imbalance in your hormones that causes your hair to start shedding. If this happens to me, I’ll be sure to do a write up on it to let you know more. But for now, I’ll cross my fingers that it doesn’t happen. 

Loss of Bone Mass

In the previous list of things to expect when you’re expecting, I wrote about how much calcium your baby needs from you to sustain their wellbeing. But you’d be shocked to find out just how much of this calcium is needed. It’s worse if you already have underlying conditions that affect your calcium content. As you know, in my case, I ended up with an emergency tooth extraction. A few weeks ago, I came across a video of a mom who had lost almost all of her teeth postpartum. Your baby’s bone development is important. You need a calcium rich diet to ensure that you’re not running at a low supply for yourself. The thing is, if your calcium levels are low, there are other health risks that you might be exposing yourself to. For instance, your bones will fracture easily. In addition, you might be at risk of confusion and depression. These are things that you don’t want to add to your already hectic schedule. However, there is good news. Research shows that when you lose bone mass while you’re pregnant, your body can restore it once you’ve delivered. Or once you’ve stopped breastfeeding. So, not all bone mass is lost forever. Your diet is also an important part of this restoration process. 

What is Colic???

If you’re a mother, you should agree that colic is one of those things that will stress you. Yet, you just don’t really know what it is. Well, you do know because everyone tells you what it is. You do your research to find out more. How to cure it, how to prevent it, how to get your baby through it. The list is endless. The first three months of my motherhood journey were a nightmare of colic anxiety. There are also many superstitions about what colic is. I laughed so much when She Who Shall Not Be Named told me that her family said the colic was caused by gloomy weather conditions. You hear it all when you’re a mother. There are many people who have opinions about what you should and shouldn’t do. Till this day, I can’t tell you what caused my daughter’s colic or how we eventually got through it. All I know is that this is one of those things that nobody warns you about. Yet, it becomes a very challenging part of your life. With my daughter, we ended up rushing to the hospital late at night because it got really bad. 


This is the last thing on this list. Support is an important part of this very complex journey. Without adequate support, it’s impossible to get through your days in one piece. You should expect that support is a crucial part of pregnancy and what comes after. Your journey isn’t the same as the next mother. There are many things that come when you least expect it. The only way for you to make it is if you have a solid support structure. In some cases, this isn’t your partner. It’s okay if things don’t work out. But if you have a family and friends that make it easier to get through, then you’re halfway there. If you don’t have anyone to rely on, even for a second, then things can get tricky while you try to juggle yourself and your baby. 

We’ve finally come to the end of this segment. It ended up being longer than expected. Well, it is about things that you should expect, anyway. The good news is that there is always something else to add to this list. And who knows, maybe there’ll be more lists in the future of other interesting parts of pregnancy and motherhood. 

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